By Denis Waitley

With the passing of every new year, each of us needs to understand the magnitude of social and economic changes in the world. In the past, change in business and social life was incremental and a set of personal strategies for achieving excellence was not required. Today, in the knowledge-based world, where change is the rule, a set of personal strategies is essential for success, even survival. Never again will you be able to go to your place of business on autopilot, comfortable and secure; that the organization, state or government will provide for and look after you.

A former Navy pilot, Waitley is a graduate of the U.S. Naval Academy at Annapolis. He received his Ph.D. in human behavior from La Jolla University in 1970. He and his wife, Susan, reside in Rancho Santa Fe, California. They have seven adult children. Visit his website at www.deniswaitley.com

Losers say they might and winners say they will. It’s as simple as that. Of course, attitude has a lot to do with winning and life success. Any Olympic athlete knows that at their level of proficiency, the game is played with their level of attitude and mental confidence. Arnold Schwarzenegger knew the power of a winning mindset when he was competing as an underdog for the 1980 Mr. Olympia title. He had come out of retirement to win the Mr. Olympia title and he was hungry to achieve it. Schwarzenegger had not been training all year like the other competitors were because he was, at that point, an upcoming Hollywood actor and spending most of his time out shooting movies. However, Schwarzenegger was a seasoned veteran of the IFBB and knew that mental focus was the key towards making a winning performance. In the prep room behind the stage, where all the competitors would prime their bodies for competition, Schwarzenegger would crack jokes to the other competitors in order to throw off their mental focus. Schwarzenegger said it was his ability to psych out the other competitors, even the reigning Mr. Olympia at the time, Frank Zane, that secured him the 1980 Mr. Olympia title.

Unlike Arnold, you don’t have to be a pro athlete or be on the Forbes 400 list to develop the mental attitude of a champion. I’ve listed some very practical and proven methods for you to start your path towards developing the attitude of a champion.

Be Outcome Oriented

Nothing comes easy in life. If things were easy, then everyone’s life would be blissful. If we want the things that we want in life, then we have to know what we must give up in order to get it. That means we have to get our hands dirty doing the grunt work before we can enjoy the rewards. If we focus solely on the grunt work, we won’t be as motivated as the ultimate reward of completing that job. For example, paying bills causes us pain, but having the bills paid gives us pleasure. Exercise causes us pain (or at least discomfort), but having exercised causes us pleasure. Winners in life are outcome oriented. Instead of focusing on the grunt work which they don’t like, they see the end result of having done that grunt work. It’s that ability which motivates great achievers do accomplish so much more.

Reflect on Your Daily Achievements

As a former gymnast, I would often get frustrated and upset when my progress wasn’t what I wanted it to be by the end of the workout, but my coach Mircea Badulescu, who was the former head coach for the Romanian Olympic team, made sure that I reflected on what exactly my daily achievements were at the end of each workout. By reflecting on what I had achieved during that day, I realized that in fact, I was making progress and that I was moving forward towards my goal and this became a powerful technique that I use even today.

At the end of each day, on a piece of paper, your journal, or computer, write down at least five things that you accomplished that day. Review that list and be proud of your achievements. Each morning when you wake up, coach yourself towards achieving small steps that you can write down on your list at the end of each day.

Pick a Role-Model and Get Inspired

When I was an aspiring gymnast, I had posters, videos and autographs from several of my favorite Olympians. They were heroes to me and it served to give me something to shoot for in my training and my purpose. All champions do this when they first start out because remember that champions are never born—they are made. They all had role-models that they aspired to be like and the role-models that they chose showed the particular skills or traits that they wanted in themselves. Many of us, however, choose poor role-models or no role-models at all as a result, they aspire to be nothing at all. It goes to show that if you want to be the best at something, then you have to model yourself after the best out there. I suggest that you read inspirational books, magazines, articles, or watch documentaries or interviews with great people. Go and rent inspiring videos that are about human perseverance and stories of success. I personally devour biographies and articles about self-made millionaires—the people who had nothing, but attained financial abundance for themselves through hard work and creativity. Role-models also serve the purpose of giving you a blueprint to follow. Remember that the best of the best out there are really no different than you or I, but we can learn what they did to rise above and beyond the rest and then follow in their footsteps down the road that they have already carved.

Build Yourself a Winning Team

No professional athlete is ever a one-person accomplishment. Behind every great professional athlete is the multitude of supporting personnel that keeps that athlete in prime shape with the objective of winning. A lot of times, we don’t see that. We only see, for example, two boxers in the ring. While the game ultimately comes down to that particular athlete, it’s their infrastructure that plays a bigger part of their winning or losing a fight. That team includes coaches, specialty trainers, therapists, and an army of other people that we rarely see when they compete. So in fact professional athletes can be seen as something like a corporation and like a corporation, they would fail if not for the people who help support them. In order for you to achieve your goals, you too will need a winning team on your side. Be careful of the relationships that you get involved in and make sure that the relationships that you do get involved in are synergistic in nature, meaning that you both benefit from it. Often, my clients come to me with parasitic relationships where one person (the parasite) feeds off the other person, whether it be physically, financially and/or emotionally, until that person is just an empty husk of the person they once were. Don’t enter parasitic relationships, just as a professional athlete would not hire an incompetent trainer to be by his side. Your ability to be a winner is directly linked to your ability to choose a winning team.

Make Your Daily Tasks “Idiot Proof”

Mozart was said to be able to create pristine and perfect pieces of music that were note-perfect on his first attempt. Well, God created Mozart and then he must have been falling asleep when he created me because I rarely get anything perfect the first time. I’m not the type of person who can simply work on a project that has multiple steps to it because I’ll procrastinate on it until the very end and I’ll slap something together the night before it’s due, which if I’m lucky, will slightly resemble a finished project. For me to get things done, I need to “stupefy” my tasks and what I mean by that is that I need my tasks to be so no-brainer that I don’t have to think much to get them done. I need concrete and simple “next actions” that I can put myself on auto-run and not have to worry about. Procrastination and unrealized goals happen when we know what we want, but we don’t know how to get there. I take a goal that has many steps to it and I break it down as much as I can. I break that goal down until each step can’t be broken down any further. I understood awhile back that if I had to think about how to do something, I would rarely do it. By having very simple actions on my daily task list, it removes the brainwork from the equation and all I have to do is simply DO IT.

Develop a “No Retreat, No Surrender” Attitude

One of my favorite quotes is from one of my earlier role-models, Peter Vidmar, who won the gold medal at the 1984 Olympics in gymnastics. When asked by a reporter how he was able to finally secure a gold medal for the Americans, he replied, “Winning the Olympic gold was simple. I just trained when I felt like training and I trained when I didn’t.” Champions are not the superheroes that we make them out to be. They are in fact regular people just like you and me. The difference between champions and losers is the fact that when the two groups are faced with adversity and pain, it’s the losers who turn and run away and it’s the winners who push forward. You see, winners have a “No retreat, no surrender” mentality. They burn the bridge behind them and there is no going back. They put 100% of their energy on seeing a goal towards completion, regardless of the pain they might have to endure to get there.

When you decide to put 100% of your focus on a goal, make sure you set in stone and tell yourself that there is simply no other way to get out of it other than by seeing that goal to its completion. There are no if’s, and’s or but’s—no excuses at all, you just get it done regardless. Make it a habit to burn the bridges behind you when you set your goals so that you eliminate all your possible ways of retreating.

Celebrate Your Victories

Finally, champions go out and celebrate their victories and so should you. Celebrations are fun and not only that, they also serve to reset your mind so that you can start the whole process of winning over again. But true champions also know that celebration comes after they’ve won the game and not before the game has even started. So celebrate when you achieve your goals and share you achievement with your winning team that made it possible.

About the Author

Tristan Loo is the founder of the Self Improvement Association (SIA) and a leading authority on human potential and personal effectiveness. As a life coach, author and presenter, Tristan has inspired thousands of people all over the world with his passionate message of overcoming adversity and creating the ultimate life that they desire. His vision is a world where everyone is able to achieve their dreams in life. His life is dedicated towards facilitating that dream.

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The aim of this post is to highlight the important facts of public speaking as well as giving useful advice on how to proceed with public speaking successfully. Basically, how to speak in public.

The book of lists (which is a book that lists all sorts of human behaviour) shows public speaking as our deepest number 1 fear. To put that into perspective, fear of death is number 7. This simple fact tells us a lot about public speaking and why so many people avoid it.

If you’re in the situation where you must address and audience, such as an incredibly important business conference or a simple quiz master duty at your local pub, it is important to understand how the audience handles information given to them.

I’m going to give you 3 points that’ll guide you through any future public speaking you may be preparing for.

1. Never tell an audience you feel nervous

This is a massive no-no! If you tell an audience that you feel nervous, they’ll start looking for nervous body language and guess what, they’ll find it. People don’t enjoy watching nervous people, it makes them feel nervous.

To combat this issue you have to do a very complicated thing. Don’t tell them you’re nervous. An audience will never suspect you’re nervous unless you tell them. So don’t tell them.

2. Use confidence gestures as you speak

Same principle as the first point, if you convey confidence by using confidence gestures you will be perceived as being confident. This is a fantastic point because even if you are terrified, if you act confident – you will be confident.

Examples of confidence gestures would be steeple gestures and open and closed palm positions. Also you want to avoid crossing your arms. If you cross your arms it sends the message that you are closed off and the audience will assume you are far from confident.

If you want to read up on these gestures further check out –

• The First Impression
• Getting Ahead in Business Tips
• Hidden Meaning of Gestures

3. Avoid Certain Gestures

There are some things you really should avoid when involved with public speaking, they are pointing at the audience, face touching and arm crossing from the previous point. Pointing at the audience would be a bad move since it puts people on the spot, which no-one likes. Face touching, if you’ve read the Hidden Meaning of Gestures can be an indicator of lying. You don’t want your audience to think you’re lying or holding back anything, so don’t fidget with your face.

How an audience sits

Studies show that people who sit in the front row learn and retain more than the others. This is because the people in the front are usually keener to learn compared to the rest of the audience since they show more attention to the speaker. When entering into a room where you’ll expected to be part of an audience knowing where to sit can be key, check out where to sit if you’d like to learn more.

What about the rest? Well the middle area is where all the question askers sit. The middle area is considered the ‘safe’ area since you’re surrounded by others, so people are more likely to get involved with a sense of security. The side and back areas are the least responsive and attentive, most likely, they don’t really want to be there. If you’re a lecturer, these are the fun ones to pick on with questions.

How you should stand

You may not have realised but where you stand does affect the audience in different ways. If you stand to the audience’s left, the right of the stage, your information will have a stronger effect on the right hemisphere of your audience’s brain. The right hemisphere is the emotional side in most people which means people are more likely to respond to emotional pleas and stories that involve emotion.

If you stand on the audience’s right, the left side of the stage, you impact the audiences left hemisphere. The left deals more with logic and will respond better to facts, figures and especially to humour. That’s why you’ll see audiences laughing longer when you use humour and stand on the left side of the stage. This is something comedians have known for decades, next time you watch stand-up – have a look.

Speaking to an audience will be much easier now that you know these key pieces of knowledge. If you’re preparing to do public speaking for the first time just remember to not say you’re nervous, show confidence gestures, don’t point or touch your face and make them laugh from the left and cry from the right. Have fun testing this information out.

Craig is a 22-year-old student currently studying psychology at Bournemouth University. He runs a self improvement blog and community filled with useful advice. His main aim is to help people exceed their expectations and reach their true potential.

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The aim of this post is to enhance your motivation through a technique known as ‘work’. The fancy technique draws together some of the important principles of gaining motivation, simply put – do what you hate, increase your motivation for everything else.

Why the hell would I ‘work’?

A lot of people do it all the time. It’s one of those petty social conditioning malarkeys that draw people in for fear of no money. But, in the reality – none of us like work. Therefore it’s the perfect thing to use to gain motivation.

If you ‘work’, you’ll know it takes two exceedingly clever abilities to force yourself in everyday. They are will-power and self-discipline. These two abilities are abused daily when they are leashed into place by the social conditioning to follow trends that make us look stupid and waste our time.

I can’t imagine the will-power and self-discipline it takes to bend over and take it from your boss for years; I’ve only had three menial jobs which in total lasted 4 months. But those 4 months taught me a valuable lesson; don’t work towards other peoples goals, work towards your own. This thinking motivates me and has led me to a situation where I don’t need to work and I’m happily financially supporting myself through this website as well other highly obtaining sources. This is something you can achieve for yourself, if you wish. All you need is that extra shove of motivation to get your daily fantasies into reality.

Before I get caught up in the examples I’d like to give, I’d first like to explain what will-power and self-discipline is. Will-power is our ability to say no to chocolate when a friend offers because she’s jealous of your successful diet or to say no to that gorgeous woman because we’ve just remembered the only condom in our wallet is an extra large for the novelty. Basically, it’s our ability to control inner unnecessary and harmful impulses.

Self-discipline on the other hand is the stamina required to persevere with our job, our partner, our studies or our dog, when he’s wet. Together will-power and self-discipline make a deadly combination that’ll make us do all kinds of nasty things in the name of the greater good, which can be tapped to improve our motivation.

How to tap will-power and self-discipline

The best way to tap these resources is to aim them at the villains of motivation. Using our will-power we can laugh at procrastination and using self-discipline we can stay the course and keep the eye of the tiger. Knowing this should allow you to figure out what I’m getting at here. I’m basically pointing out that in order to steroid our motivation we need to do things we hate and I’ve got a lovely list.

How about taking 15 minutes out today and trying these activities out, you’ll feel great after them through a sense of achievement so there’s nothing to lose.

Activities

• Walk the dog in the rain. Ok, maybe you can’t do this today, but you can the next time it rains. If you haven’t got a dog, go pretend to walk one, it’ll work wonders
• Talk to someone you generally avoid. That’s right, go and talk to that weird guy who you believe is stalking you or worse yet you could give your mother a ring, especially if you’ve not talked to her in awhile
• Stop biting your nails. Stop for a week and see the difference in will-power
• Go on a diet and try exercising. Diets are an utter bugger to follow, they’re truly hard work. What better to increase your will-power and motivation by cutting out all your luxuries in life
• Drink juice in the morning? Instead of drinking the one you like, change it to one you hate and drink that instead
• Wash all the dishes. Wash them all, nice and clean. Especially if they aren’t yours, it’ll boost your will-power and self-discipline which in turn will boost your motivation.

Doing these simple tasks could change your life. They could give you those extra points of motivation required for you to stop taking orders from your lower IQ boss and leave to start your own business, or it could be the exact thing you need to not take life so seriously and relax more knowing you are in control. Most importantly though, the more you do these boring, bland, horrible ‘work’ tasks you fill up your tank of motivation, getting it ready for the getaway when you decide to kidnap your dream and force it into reality.

Craig is a 22-year-old student currently studying psychology at Bournemouth University. He runs a self improvement blog and community filled with useful advice. His main aim is to help people exceed their expectations and reach their true potential.

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The aim of this post is to block a few of those negative associations we all have about our looks in the presence of an attractive woman.

It basically comes down to this. If you think you are ugly, she is going to think it too. I’m pretty sure we’ve all been through this field of thinking. Unless you’re incredibly good looking in which case; feel free to leave this post now and return to your straightener’s.

Acceptance

Instead of allowing physical looks to dictate decisions we should instead practice acceptance. Accepting such things allows us to see them in their true form, which on most occasions is much less than we originally thought, in terms of size.

To accept our physical appearance we’ll first needs to understand what we can and cannot change about ourselves. I had rather bad acne as a teenager which burdened my confidence and ruined many a Saturday night on the town. I eventually got my testicles together and realised that acne is a very common condition and therefore quite reversible.

Accepting my acne as a changeable situation I began scribbling together a half hearted list of other physical imperfections that I could change. The list creation took a matter of minutes yet the fulfilment took months. That’s the next step to acceptance – write a list of characteristics you can change, and then change them.

The things we cannot change simply need to be forgotten about. There’s no need to waste time on things we cannot change or improve, drop them and brush them aside and focus only on what we can change, which you’ll see is quite a lot.

Once I’d listed acne as a changeable characteristic of what I believed made me feel unconfident with my physical appearance I set out researching what I could do to choke the little buggers off my skin. Surprisingly enough, the answer was obvious – seeing my local GP.

After a short visit I was reinforced with the notion that acne was a very curable and common condition that wouldn’t plague me much longer after I’ve finished a batch of tablets. I proceeded and eventually won the fight which instantly increased my confidence to an unimaginative level.

You can increase your confidence in the exact same way using your list of change and change not’s. Once you’ve focused and removed your change list by completing each one you can begin focusing a little more on your change-not’s which can be buried with some very attractive knowledge regarding how women perceive men and what drives attraction mechanisms.

Being good looking is not important for men

That’s right; a man does not need to be physically attractive to attract an attractive woman (mouthful?). To explain this thoroughly before I get bombarded with comments I’ll enlist the aid of evolutionary biology.

Animals in every generation have random genetic variation, and those animals whose genes are best suited for their environment tend to do a little better, on average, than other members of their species. Over time, the advantage of doing “a little better” becomes compounded, and the nature of the species changes.

Seen in this way, each generation is a competition between different genetic make-ups. The competition takes place extremely slowly, but evolutionary time is very long. Assuming 30 years per generation, each million years allows for over 33,000 rounds of Darwin’s game.

Most of our genetic make-up today is a result of genetic mutations that have come from previous generations. Each mutation that gives an advantage wins out over time.

Success in evolutionary terms can be seen as –

• Surviving until he or she is old enough to have offspring of their own
• Having access to sex partners, to mate with
• Reproducing frequently
• Being able to protect and raise their offspring efficiently

Being good looking does not dictate any of the above items, only aids the endeavour. Instead women look for –

Health -

• Social Intuition
• Humour

Attributes -

• Status
• Wealth

Congruence -

• Pre-selected
• Challenging
• Confident

just believe me when I say men’s looks aren’t important to women. In fact 80% of the attraction process with men and women comes from the above list in a combination of health, attributes and congruence leaving a petty 20% to physical looks.

To be completely honest, you could be Quasimodo, but if you have the characteristics present in your personality that women desire, you will be James Bond.

Moving on

With the changes made and acceptance granted with the change-not’s you are on your way to becoming an extremely confident man who’ll never need to mutter the world ugly again.

Hopefully I’ve met the aim of the post and shot down a few of your inner negative associations to do with physical looks and helped replace a few with a more positive, reinforced version of reality. Whatever the case may be, it’s time for you to have fun and start mingling together a change list to actively move ahead in your quest for attractive women.

Craig is a 22-year-old student currently studying psychology at Bournemouth University. He runs a self improvement blog and community filled with useful advice. His main aim is to help people exceed their expectations and reach their true potential.

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Here are 8 of the world’s worst handshakes, they are the most annoying and disliked handshakes and their variations. Avoid them at all costs or it could cost you a job, friendship or business relationship.

The handshake is extremely important in a business situation so avoid giving a bad handshake at all costs. Reading this article will alert you to worst handshakes and tell you if you give a bad handshake or not.

8. The Pump Handle Handshake

Credibility Rating: 4/10

With strong rural overtones, the pumper grabs the hand of the pumpee and commences an energetic and rhythmic series of rapid vertical strokes. While up to seven pumps is acceptable, some pumpers continue to pump uncontrollably as if they are trying to draw water from the pumpee.

Occasionally, the pumper will cease pumping but continue to hold the receiver’s hand to prevent their escape and, interestingly, few people try to pull their hand away. The act of being physically connected seems to weaken our resolve to retreat.

7. The Vice Handshake

Credibility Rating: 4/10

This quietly persuasive style is a favourite of men in business and reveals a desire to dominate and assume early control of the relationship or put people in their place. The palm is presented in the down position with one sharp downward pump followed by two or three vigorous return strokes and a grip that can even stop blood flow to the hand. Sometimes it will be used by a person who feels weak and fears they will be dominated by others.

If you are guilty of giving this handshake, I invite you to skip straight to the bottom in order to learn how to give a correct handshake, so you can relieve yourself. Then skip back up and read more of the worst handshakes. Just to make sure you don’t give any other bad handshakes.

6. The Stiff-Arm Thrust Handshake

Credibility Rating: 3/10

Like the Palm-Down Thrust, the Stiff-Arm Thrust tends to be used by aggressive types and its main purpose is to keep you at a distance and away from their personal space. It’s also used by people raised in rural areas, who have larger personal space needs and want to protect their territory.

These people will even lean forward or balance on one foot to keep their distance when delivering a Stiff-Arm Thrust.

5. The Socket-Wrencher Handshake

Credibility Rating: 3/10

A popular choice of power players and common cause of watering eyes and, in extreme cases, torn ligaments. This is the father of the Bent-Arm-Pull-In, and involves forcefully gripping the receiver’s outstretched palm, then simultaneously applying a sharp reverse thrust, attempting to drag the receiver into the initiator’s territory. This results in loss of balance and gets the relationship off on the wrong foot.

Pulling the receiver into the initiator’s territory can mean one of three things: first, the initiator is an insecure type who feels safe only within his own personal space; second, the initiator is from a culture that has smaller space needs; or third, he wants to control you by pulling you off balance. Either way, he wants the encounter to be on his terms.

4. The Finger-Tip Grab Handshake

Credibility Rating: 2/10

A common occurrence in male—female greetings, the Finger-Tip Grab is a handshake that missed the mark and the user mistakenly grabs the other person’s fingers. Even though the initiator may seem to have an enthusiastic attitude towards the receiver, he in fact lacks confidence in himself. In these circumstances, the main aim of the Finger-Tip Grab is to keep the receiver at a comfortable distance. The Finger-Tip Grab can also result from personal space differences between the people in the handshake. This could happen if one person’s intimate space was two feet (60cm) and the other’s was three feet (90cm), the latter stands further back during greeting so the hands don’t connect properly.

If this happens to you, take the other person’s right hand with your left and place it correctly in your right hand and say, with a smile ‘Let’s try that again!’ and shake hands equally. This builds your credibilitybecause you are telling the other person that you think they are important enough for you to get it right.

3. The Dutch Treat Handshake

Credibility Rating: 2/10

Being somewhat vegetarian in approach, this handshake has its origins in the Netherlands, where a person can be accused of ‘Geeft ‘n hand als bosje worteljes’ meaning ‘Giving a handshake like a bunch of carrots’. It’s a distant relative of the Wet Fish but stiffer and less clammy to the touch.

2. The Wet Fish Handshake

Credibility Rating: 1/10

Few greetings are as uninviting as the Wet Fish, particularly when the hand is cold or clammy.The soft, placid feel of the Wet Fish makes it universally unpopular and most people associate it with weak character, mainly because of the ease with which the palm can be turned over. It is read by the receiver as a lack of commitment to the encounter, but there may be cultural or other implications – in some Asian and African cultures a limp handshake is the norm and a firm handshake can be seen as offensive. Also, one in twenty people suffer from a condition called hyperhydrosis, which is a genetic condition that causes chronic sweating. It’s wise to carry tissues or a handkerchief for mop-up strategies before any bout of handshaking.

The palms have more sweat glands than any other part of the body, which is why sweaty palms become so obvious. Surprisingly, many people who use the Wet Fish are unaware they do it so it’s wise to ask your friends to comment on your handshake style before deciding what you’ll use in future meetings.

1. The Bone-Crusher Handshake

Credibility Rating: 0/10

A second cousin to the Vice, the Bone-Crusher is the most feared of all handshakes as it leaves an indelible memory on the recipient’s mind and fingers and impresses no one other than the initiator. The Bone-Crusher is the trademark of the overly aggressive personality who, without warning, seizes the early advantage and attempts to demoralise his opponent by grinding his knuckles to a smooth paste. If you are female, avoid wearing rings on your right hand in business encounters as the Bone-Crusher can draw blood and leave you to open your business dealings in a state of shock.

Unfortunately, there are no effective ways to counter it. If you believe someone has done it on purpose, you could bring it to every-one’s attention by saying, ‘Ouch! That really hurt my hand. Your grip is too strong.’ This puts the advocate of the Bone-Crusher on notice not to repeat the behaviour.

The Cure to a Bad Handshake

Few people have any idea how they come across to others in initial meetings, despite the fact that most of us are aware that the first few minutes of that meeting can make or break a relationship. Take the time to practise handshake styles with your friends and colleagues and you can quickly learn how to deliver a positive handshake every time. Keeping the palms held vertical and matching the other person’s grip is usually perceived as a 10/10 handshake.

Now that you’ve reached the end of the ‘8 of the worlds worst handshakes‘ you can jump along to more related articles such as the 9 golden keys to making a great first impression, How to Get Ahead in Business and the First 20 Seconds of an Interview.

Craig is a 22-year-old student currently studying psychology at Bournemouth University. He runs a self improvement blog and communityfilled with useful advice. His main aim is to help people exceed their expectations and reach their true potential.

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One of the most useful avenues of Face Reading techniques is during the job interview. Candidates can gauge the interviewer as they do not have the birth date of their future superior. Employers can use it as additional gauge of the employee in case the birth data of the employee is not accurate.

Forehead

A high, fleshy and pinkish forehead generally means that this person will achieve great sucess in hiscareer. However, if you are the superior, you may want to compare your forehead against your subordinate’s forehead in case your subordinate overshines you in your department!

Eyebrows

Sparse eyebrows indicate that the person is quite meticulous and would be useful for jobs that requires details. However, such a person is less suitable for managerial post as he has the likelihood to micro-manage. In addition, eyebrows which has hairs that are not grow in the same direction denote a state of mind that is not so clear and concise. If the 2 eyebrows are spaced too closely this person is likely to be narrow-minded or petty.

Ears

Ears that stick closely to the sides generally mean that this person is quite careful.

Nose

A high and protruding nose bridge indicates this person is quite confident on himself.

A fleshy nose indicates a kind personality. For job-seekers, this will be one good feature to keep a lookout for your prospective superior. A short nose indicates tendency to job hop and should be of interest to the employer. Lastly a visible nostril also indicates a violent personality.

Cheekbone

A squarish cheekbone generally means confidence. If you are hiring a manager or someone for a position that needs to exudes confidence when dealing with people, this will be the physical trait you need to keep a close lookout for.

Eyes

An exceedingly larger % of the whitish portion of the eye signifies the person is vengeful. Having a staff with such a physical feature may mean the workplace harmony is compromised.

Mountain Root

This is the space between the eyes and if scarred or ridden with lines means this person is likely to be embroiled in conflicts.

Lips

A thinner lower lip suggests this person is selfish and aggressive. If the work entails cooperation and team spirit, someone with this physical trait will not be suitable for such a line of work.

Article Source: http://www.articlesbase.com/interviews-articles/face-reading-for-job-interviews-722801.html

Face Reading (personology) and Eyebrows

The shape of the eyebrows identifies different personality traits, although most of them are related to thinking styles, still there are lots of other things that can be tracked by checking how the eyebrows look like. Take special care with women because of the cosmetics they use which can totally reshape the eyebrow and give false signatures. Below are some different shapes of eyebrows and their associated personality traits.

Eyebrow types in face reading

• Straight eyebrows (The logical): When eyebrows are like a straight line then this person is a logical thinker. If you want to convince him of something, only use logic and proofs; don’t try to convince him using emotions like saying “Hey, this is good; I feel it’s nice” instead tell him something like “It has lots of benefits, number one is bla bla and number two is bla bla bla”. Using a pen and a paper is the best way to convince such a person as you can point out all the advantages and disadvantages of the issue you are talking about.
• Meeting eyebrows (The non-stop thinker): when the eye brows are connected; when they meet each other through a bridge of hair, this person is a non-stop thinker. Such a person can’t relax; he is always thinking and evaluating everything around him. If you relate to this category, make sure you learn how to relax so as not to harm your health. That person may have sleeping problemswhen approaching a major event in his life, on account of all the thinking he does.
• Angled eyebrows (The authority seeker): You must take a great deal of care when dealing with such a person. That person, with angled eyebrows that kind of form an inverted “v” shape, is always seeking control and authority; try noticing how many presidents had angled eyebrows, you’d be surprised. Those people usually fight fiercely for authority and high status and positions. If you want to get along with this person, make him feel important; try to catch his name on your first meeting so you can use it again. motivating that person is very easy, just give him more control and make him feel that everything is depending on him.
• Thin eye brows (The sensitive): Very thin eyebrows may mean that this person is overly sensitive, especially if he has delicate facial features, like small eyes, nose or mouth. When dealing with that person, pay extra attention not to hurt him as he is more sensitive to external stimulus than other people.
• Curved eye brows (The friendly): A person with curved eyebrows (sometimes called round) is a friendly person by nature, the same as the person with round face features; round cheeks or chin. This person understands best by examples and metaphors.

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Law Of Attraction Vision Boards:
The Secret To Getting What You Want In Life

Have you ever wondered why your dreams haven’t come true yet? If you’ve been reading my newsletter for awhile, you know that I embody and teach the ‘how to’ principles behind successfully achieving our goals and dreams. Nothing happens, no forward steps are taken until we first have a dream. However, even when we have a dream, we can’t begin manifesting it until some important first steps are taken to prepare a solid foundation for success. To make a dream come true we don’t have to initially know HOW we are going to do it. Instead, we only have to know what we want and then engage our physical body senses in the process. The basic first steps include:

One simple, and powerful, action step to making your dreams come true is to construct a visual representation of the desired outcome. Vision boards are a fantastic tool to help us focus on the particular abundance, joy, or relationship that is important to us. They help us see our desires vividly while stimulating all of our physical senses. A Vision board is a visual picture of the dreams we have for our life. It’s a big colorful poster onto which we place pictures of what we want to create.

For example, if your goal is overcoming overeating, creating a happier life, or creating a healthy and fit body, take a little time and articulate what you do not want. From this statement, ask yourself some meaningful questions about what you do want:

• What would the dream look?
• How would life be different?
• How would you feel, think, and act if you had what you wanted?
• What strengths would you have?

Then, it’s easy to flip the statement around 180 degrees and articulate what you do want. For example, “I don’t want to feel stressed and use food to cope” becomes “I have comfort and ease in my body right now, along with the freedom to eat what I want in amounts that are satisfying.” Or, “I don’t want to struggle with my weight” becomes “I have a loving partnership with my body that allows the formation of confidence and beauty.”

From these positive statements, notice what images come to mind. The next step to turn those dreams into reality is to create a visual representation. Vision boards help us see the images of our success. They help us to focus on the joy of our dreams. In addition, they allow us to cultivate the excitement necessary to take further action steps that bring dreams closer to reality. The key is to find pictures that help us focus and reflect on ourselves already in possession of the desired outcomes.

Looking at your vision board helps cultivate a belief of impending success! You can indeed live the life you want to be living. You can feel good, right now, in this present moment, as you realize you have taken control of your life as you deliberately chose the direction you wish to head toward. No more is life something that just happens to you. Now you are firmly in the driver’s seat!

How to Create A Vision Board

Law of Attraction Vision Boards are easy and fun to make. All you need are a few simple tools. In a short amount of time, you’ll be able to tap into the secret so powerful it transforms the lives of anyone discovering it…

1. Purchase a large poster board in whatever color you like. Also pick up a glue stick and a pair of scissors.

2. Gather an assortment of old magazines, pictures, catalogs, and snap shots.

3. Take some time and create a space where you can relax and have fun. Brew a cup of hot tea, light a candle, put on music that speaks to you. If you want, invite a close friend or your partner to join in the process! Then – is this is an important step – breathe deeply, close your eyes, and imagine the goal you wish to achieve. Allow your senses to play with your dream. Take five minutes and fully live your dream exactly the way you want to be living it.

4. Now open your eyes and let the fun begin! Leaf through the magazines, and tear out any pictures, words, phrases, and thoughts that inspire your senses. Don’t think about it too much. Simply go through the magazines and remove anything that grasps your attention. Pull out pictures, images, words, and phrases that excite and motivate you to reach your destiny. Along with the pictures, it also helps to add a few motivational statements that spell out the goals you wish for yourself.

5. Take your time. Give yourself an hour, or an evening, to create your vision board.

6. When you sense you have all the pictures you need, sort through your pictures, and begin to arrange them on your poster. Use the scissors and cut out the words and hone in on the images that speak most to you. After you have cut out the pictures and phrases, glue or paste them on your poster board.

7. Have fun doing it! Enjoy yourself! Let you imagination be your guide. If you really want to make this a fun experience, invite several of your closest friends over to join you in the process. Make it a party! Celebrate life and the act of creation with those friends or family you most love spending your time with!

8. Once your board is completed, activate your Vision board. Place it in a room or on a wall that you can look at it often for a month or two. Perhaps the best place would be in your office where you can put it in front of you and look at it often. Or maybe the best place is in your bedroom, where you can reflect on your dream first thing in the morning, and make it the last thing you look at before you close your eyes at night. You could tack it to the ceiling above your bed, or it might just make an excellent screen saver.

By using your Vision board you will be able to put the “Law of Attraction” into use immediately. As time passes, feel free to add to your board, or paste over what doesn’t work. Make it come alive by dwelling on it every now and then when inspired. As you concentrate on these visual images of what you want, add a sense of peace and joy. Smile. Inhale the sensation of you having exactly what you want. Allow your subconscious mind to help you achieve your goals. You now have a self-generated tool that keeps you focused on your desires and makes you feel good. Your vision board is the most powerful tool assisting you in manifesting abundance!

Source: Law Of Attraction Vision Boards by Annette Colby, PhD.